Conflict Resolution and me

I wish that life was merry 100% of the time. Life is, sadly, not always enjoyable. But does this mean that it's got to be bad? I hate to feel down; I know that it's a part of life, and there's no escape. However, I seem to feel depressed for no reason or remain sad sometimes. There is no shame in feeling down, so there's no reason for you to stay down. I find it unreasonable to stay in a bad mood for more than 5 minutes. Your acts are the only thing that you manage. This means that you can choose to do something that cheers you up. Here are 5 things that I do, and you can try to instantly feel better- 1. Watch Something Funny I watch something funny every day because it's good for you. What laughing does to you is this: Relaxes the whole body Strengthens the immune system Reduces the hormones of stress Causes endorphin release Protects the heart Just open up YouTube and watch the funny stuff. I love some channels like Kanan Gill , Rahul Dua , Nishant Suri , Vir Das ...

By Nipun Chadha " Trust the wait.  Embrace the uncertainty. Enjoy the beauty of becoming. When nothing is certain, anything is possible."  - Mandy Hale You know the feeling of driving on roads that are unknown?  How clueless you feel seeing the path in front of you; And how you are constantly trying to figure the way out of reach to a desirable point from somewhere you started.  Compare this to how you feel driving on the roads just outside your home. How comfortable it is, how prepared you are for the potholes. Just how easy it is to be in the moment. The point I am trying to make is that uncertainty is uncomfortable . Especially when you are in a very comfortable bubble.  But here’s a thing about bubbles. The higher they fly, higher is the probability of that bubble breaking due to the pressure it deals with. Yes, uncertainty is uncomfortable.  But coming back to my example of an unknown road.  Do you know how amazing it feels when you finally reach ...

“I've learned one thing, and that's to quit worrying about stupid things. You have four years to be irresponsible here, relax. Work is for people with jobs. You'll never remember class time, but you'll remember the time you wasted hanging out with your friends. So stay out late. Go out with your friends on a Tuesday when you have a paper due on Wednesday. Spend money you don't have. Drink 'til sunrise. The work never ends, but college does...” ―  Tom Petty I landed up in a course that I cursorily ticked on my college application. So finding B.A. (Hons) Business Economics (BBE) was pure destiny. Keeping this serendipity in perspective, I was so sure that this course would provide me the exact path I should be on. It somewhat did, but if I were to correctly say it, I'd say my journey gave me the answer where I wanted to be, and more importantly what I wanted to be. My college offered me a plethora of opportunities that were nothing short of wonderful; which le...

There are infinite ways I can miss you, maybe the list is short but my reason is huge. Or maybe I've got a trillion lists of tiny reasons but both are the same dull ache. Perhaps I do have both. My little list no longer makes sense, just like it simply no longer exists. My longer list is not meaningless, it's all about him. I miss those things that he used to say. I miss the songs that he would play in his car. I miss the way he was excited about meeting me even after we met just a few days back. I miss how he loved me every time he looked at me. I miss his geekiness about movies and shows. He was a lost cause, but I miss him. I loved the way he chased passion. I miss the way he loved adventure and made our days a ride of a roller coaster.  Mostly, though, I miss things that haven't happened yet. You can't actually miss them because you never knew your life with them in it, but you can't help but think about how great it would have been. I miss things like this on b...

A letter from a stranger. It is believed that if today we face some problem in life, then tomorrow it will be solved, like day and night, life hits us too. If we face the dark side now, then surely tomorrow there will be light. Many of us believe in this motto and many may not. I once learnt about a traveller, who was stuck in a desert. His car had broken down and cell reception was lost. However, without losing his hope, he survived the hard conditions of the desert and saw his loved ones again. I wondered, was it hope which kept him alive? Was it the inspiration of the loved ones? Was it the wish to live again? I was lost in my thoughts when my eyes fell upon a desk, a lifeless desk. It can't move, it can't feel the scratches made by anyone, it simply bears weight without an ache, it doesn't feel PAIN!  Maybe we are wrong after all long? Pain can only be felt by the living. Contradicting, we may believe that in pain we feel lifeless, but ...

I am the kind of person who would go to extreme measures to avoid spoilers whenever a new film or Tv show releases. I am off social media until I actually finish watching the movie or the whole season of the Tv show. In real life, if I hear a conversation about something I am looking forward to, I immediately leave the scene with hands on my ears singing loudly. I hate those evil people who deliberately post spoilers everywhere and ruin it for everyone. And apparently,  the internet has become one such hub for evils to rant about. We really need a feature to report spoilers or filter out posts that contain them on social media. What a generous world would that be! The accidental kind of spoilers is plain dumb. Be careful guys, do no harm to others as it may just start a rival reaction. But you know what is the worst kind of spoiler? The fake one! You keep imagining scenarios in your head that this might happen, waiting and it ends the other way round. My sister act...

People never spell my name correctly and it gets screwed up a lot. If I had a dollar for everytime someone wrote ' Riya' as 'Ria' , I'd be retired and enjoying my life. I had 14 certificates changed in school because they always wrote 'Ria ' or ' Rhea' on them. That error has happened so frequently, there came a point where I just stopped pointing it out to people, at least in messages. It's a bigger disappointment when a guy is trying to flirt, and he writes the wrong spelling of your name. I mean I don't expect you to do any favourite colour/flowers homework but the name is basics duh-uh. Nevertheless, the day came Suddenly everybody knew the right spelling of my name because everyone who knew me and some who didn't, were tagging me in the #riyamemes. Well, I don't know about Sajid but my friends were super happy because they now had a new excuse to make fun of me. I had so much unwanted attention on every social me...

"This friendship and love are too fictional, People just keep trying to make them real. It doesn't work." The idea of love is drilled into our minds, through every fictional movie and tv shows we watch, through every romantic novel we read, through every picture made to look like love. I did not develop love correctly, perhaps, everything felt tough, bleak, dramatic, volatile and bad. And every stable relationship of commitment and stability around me made me uneasy. Generally, I believe the need to feel affection, chills and thrill of a relationship is valid and a winnable need, What's tragic is that it's often dismissed. If you've never been in love or in a relationship, I'd hate to be the one breaking it to you but MAGIC FADES. It's a matter of time. But that's where you discover what's real and what's not. No matter how good or bad it'll be for you, with time you'll realize your partner will be a mix of qualities a...

This amazing pocketbook captures some of Ruskin Bond's best observations on a life of serenity. This book actually makes you feel calm and relaxed.  For me it was my bedtime read, it helped me a lot to dip into moments of disquiet.  Why you must pause, look up and out of the window My favorite quotes from this book- 

Looking to read a good book on management? Find essential insights for busy managers through this book: This is a hugely insightful and engaging book. It is practical and a guide to using your emotions in the right direction. It explains how emotions play an important role in an organisation, especially in building a relationship with employees. " People leave managers, not companies" HIGHLIGHTS: 1. The essential difference between emotion and reason is that emotion leads to action while reason leads to conclusions. 2. He who knows the universe but does not know himself knows nothing.  3. Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. 4. The most valuable time we have is between stimulus and response.  

I don't have dreams, I have goals.  - Harvey Specter  GOALS? Why are goals so important? Why does everyone keep talking about goals? Well, Goals help me proudly say- "I know where I am going" Are you the kind of person who likes to drift along and see what happens? OR Do you have a goal which is something you would like to happen in your life and are working towards it? Setting goals is the most significant step and is quite difficult sometimes. But, believing you can accomplish the goal you have set may actually be the hardest part. So I do this thing called "living the result" or "internalising the goal" before you have achieved it. And I do think it plays an important role in motivating you constantly to work towards your goal. Your imagination is what makes the journey towards the goal so beautiful. The Goal should be clear in your mind, not a half hearted wish. You must have belief in yourself and your ability to achiev...

This book has made me see the world differently. A new approach to economics with the examples of the modern age- Peter Thiel himself, Elon Musk and of different companies like PayPal, Oracle, Google etc. It has the economics we need to study to understand and survive the coming age of startups. The book starts with the quote: EVERY MOMENT IN BUSINESS happens only once.  The next Bill Gates will not build an operating system. The next Larry Page or Sergey Brin won’t make a search engine. And the next Mark Zuckerberg won’t create a social network. If you are copying these guys, you aren’t learning from them. The First chapter revolves around this quote about the originality of the idea, which is the whole explanation of the title of the book.  The author believes there are two types of innovation. If you take something that exists and improves upon it, you go from 1 to n. However, if we create something new on the other hand, we go from “0 to 1." This also explains t...

Don't be affected too much by all the small things in life for all the small things will come and go and you'll lose focus from the big things But don't be affected too much by the big things in life for life is lived in the small things and the moments that come and go by I looked at her with happiness and not just a smile "You're my small thing I said and laughed" Forgot to mention that she's also my big thing. One day when I was listening to my friend's stories, I told him all of this big stuff and small stuff and how it affects us and ruins what we call happiness. It is always easier said than done, and After A few days,  when I was upset about something, He wonderfully converted that conversation into a poem and showed it to me. He gave me exactly what I needed at the moment and I can never thank him enough for everything. Always guiding me about studies, books, and life.  This poem means a lot to me now, for two reaso...

The side effects of being me, Are even greater than the natural disaster it seems. Whatever I do, always goes wrong. When I want a chicken it turns out to be a prawn. When I shoot the basketball at practice It always goes in But when it comes to show others My experiences are as odd as huckleberry Finn's. When in the corridor I am having a talk. Mam comes up and thinks i am having a nice walk. Whenever I use a bit of slang, I get a painful slash- slap -bang. Being egoistic was once a trend But it made me break up with my best friend. My short temper makes me turn people topsy-turvy. But then it makes me ask the teacher for some mercy I am pretty good at making excuses I will make a new one if other diffuses In any subject when I share my oh-so-unpleasant views in the whole class, it becomes hot news At the end of the day when I think Everything is going to be fine And the night is going to be mine When I can think what all I did and got during the day And I ...

 Too Much Trouble - Ruskin bond A book review ( with an interpretation )   This book is a perfect children's book, it is funny, it has morals that lighten up your heart. Throughout the book, I was constantly smiling because it reminded me how I loved such stories during my childhood. But being a 19-year-old I have a very different interpretation of this book:  "We eventually start adjusting to circumstances" In the book, the young narrator and his family start adjusting with some troublesome guests- Elusive python, A naughty monkey, And even a mischievous ghost. It is funny how a children's book can answer your problems when no one can, over-thinker by nature, I'm always tempted to look back into my past and be bothered by it. Now, my interpretation is that we all have something in the past that keeps bothering us in our present- the lost battles, the heartbreaks, failures, regrets etc.. The small ones are the animals while the bigger on...

I was asked to write for my college yearbook on the topic -Wonderful experience in college.    and this is what I wrote. Going by the literal definition, 'Experience' is "the process of doing and seeing things and of having things happen to you." The first semester of my college was a whole lot of not getting things that I wanted. Not getting into societies that I applied for. Not fitting into the group of people who I wanted to be friends with. Not achieving the grades I wanted and that’s just a whole lot of experience right there. Soon, I made up my own definition of experience: "Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you wanted." My best memories in college are based on just one line: "Sometimes things have to fall apart to make way for better things..." (HIMYM reference) Since I didn't get into societies of my choice, I had time to explore other options available in college and ...