Conflict Resolution and me

By Nipun Chadha " Trust the wait.  Embrace the uncertainty. Enjoy the beauty of becoming. When nothing is certain, anything is possible."  - Mandy Hale You know the feeling of driving on roads that are unknown?  How clueless you feel seeing the path in front of you; And how you are constantly trying to figure the way out of reach to a desirable point from somewhere you started.  Compare this to how you feel driving on the roads just outside your home. How comfortable it is, how prepared you are for the potholes. Just how easy it is to be in the moment. The point I am trying to make is that uncertainty is uncomfortable . Especially when you are in a very comfortable bubble.  But here’s a thing about bubbles. The higher they fly, higher is the probability of that bubble breaking due to the pressure it deals with. Yes, uncertainty is uncomfortable.  But coming back to my example of an unknown road.  Do you know how amazing it feels when you finally reach your destination despite

“I've learned one thing, and that's to quit worrying about stupid things. You have four years to be irresponsible here, relax. Work is for people with jobs. You'll never remember class time, but you'll remember the time you wasted hanging out with your friends. So stay out late. Go out with your friends on a Tuesday when you have a paper due on Wednesday. Spend money you don't have. Drink 'til sunrise. The work never ends, but college does...” ―  Tom Petty I landed up in a course that I cursorily ticked on my college application. So finding B.A. (Hons) Business Economics (BBE) was pure destiny. Keeping this serendipity in perspective, I was so sure that this course would provide me the exact path I should be on. It somewhat did, but if I were to correctly say it, I'd say my journey gave me the answer where I wanted to be, and more importantly what I wanted to be. My college offered me a plethora of opportunities that were nothing short of wonderful; which le

I was sorry that I was different. He said he loved me, but he didn't know how. Maybe he tried his best. He demanded I fight his demons for him because he failed. I tricked myself into believing they were my demons. He left and I didn't say anything. I felt like I was kind. No one bought it. The ground beneath my feet began to shift violently. Doubt began to seep. I stopped believing I was smart. The days became long. I took every relationship that had shown me unconditional love and smashed it into pieces. There was a relief though, there was nothing left to screw up. I was finally alone. I let myself cry. I stopped struggling. Everything turned very still. I thought I'd die, but my heart kept beating. It didn't care about what I thought. My heart stopped apologizing. It became quiet. I was still breathing. If I fell, I knew that I could get up. It was hard at first. I stopped fretting and started exploring. I practiced falling. I was always stuck at a question; You ca

"This friendship and love are too fictional, People just keep trying to make them real. It doesn't work." The idea of love is drilled into our minds, through every fictional movie and tv shows we watch, through every romantic novel we read, through every picture made to look like love. I did not develop love correctly, perhaps, everything felt tough, bleak, dramatic, volatile and bad. And every stable relationship of commitment and stability around me made me uneasy. Generally, I believe the need to feel affection, chills and thrill of a relationship is valid and a winnable need, What's tragic is that it's often dismissed. If you've never been in love or in a relationship, I'd hate to be the one breaking it to you but MAGIC FADES. It's a matter of time. But that's where you discover what's real and what's not. No matter how good or bad it'll be for you, with time you'll realize your partner will be a mix of qualities a

I don't have dreams, I have goals.  - Harvey Specter  GOALS? Why are goals so important? Why does everyone keep talking about goals? Well, Goals help me proudly say- "I know where I am going" Are you the kind of person who likes to drift along and see what happens? OR Do you have a goal which is something you would like to happen in your life and are working towards it? Setting goals is the most significant step and is quite difficult sometimes. But, believing you can accomplish the goal you have set may actually be the hardest part. So I do this thing called "living the result" or "internalising the goal" before you have achieved it. And I do think it plays an important role in motivating you constantly to work towards your goal. Your imagination is what makes the journey towards the goal so beautiful. The Goal should be clear in your mind, not a half hearted wish. You must have belief in yourself and your ability to achiev

This book has made me see the world differently. A new approach to economics with the examples of the modern age- Peter Thiel himself, Elon Musk and of different companies like PayPal, Oracle, Google etc. It has the economics we need to study to understand and survive the coming age of startups. The book starts with the quote: EVERY MOMENT IN BUSINESS happens only once.  The next Bill Gates will not build an operating system. The next Larry Page or Sergey Brin won’t make a search engine. And the next Mark Zuckerberg won’t create a social network. If you are copying these guys, you aren’t learning from them. The First chapter revolves around this quote about the originality of the idea, which is the whole explanation of the title of the book.  The author believes there are two types of innovation. If you take something that exists and improves upon it, you go from 1 to n. However, if we create something new on the other hand, we go from “0 to 1." This also explains the p

Don't be affected too much by all the small things in life for all the small things will come and go and you'll lose focus from the big things But don't be affected too much by the big things in life for life is lived in the small things and the moments that come and go by I looked at her with happiness and not just a smile "You're my small thing I said and laughed" Forgot to mention that she's also my big thing. One day when I was listening to my friend's stories, I told him all of this big stuff and small stuff and how it affects us and ruins what we call happiness. It is always easier said than done, and After A few days,  when I was upset about something, He wonderfully converted that conversation into a poem and showed it to me. He gave me exactly what I needed at the moment and I can never thank him enough for everything. Always guiding me about studies, books, and life.  This poem means a lot to me now, for two reaso

The side effects of being me, Are even greater than the natural disaster it seems. Whatever I do, always goes wrong. When I want a chicken it turns out to be a prawn. When I shoot the basketball at practice It always goes in But when it comes to show others My experiences are as odd as huckleberry Finn's. When in the corridor I am having a talk. Mam comes up and thinks i am having a nice walk. Whenever I use a bit of slang, I get a painful slash- slap -bang. Being egoistic was once a trend But it made me break up with my best friend. My short temper makes me turn people topsy-turvy. But then it makes me ask the teacher for some mercy I am pretty good at making excuses I will make a new one if other diffuses In any subject when I share my oh-so-unpleasant views in the whole class, it becomes hot news At the end of the day when I think Everything is going to be fine And the night is going to be mine When I can think what all I did and got during the day And I