Conflict Resolution and me

By Nipun Chadha " Trust the wait.  Embrace the uncertainty. Enjoy the beauty of becoming. When nothing is certain, anything is possible."  - Mandy Hale You know the feeling of driving on roads that are unknown?  How clueless you feel seeing the path in front of you; And how you are constantly trying to figure the way out of reach to a desirable point from somewhere you started.  Compare this to how you feel driving on the roads just outside your home. How comfortable it is, how prepared you are for the potholes. Just how easy it is to be in the moment. The point I am trying to make is that uncertainty is uncomfortable . Especially when you are in a very comfortable bubble.  But here’s a thing about bubbles. The higher they fly, higher is the probability of that bubble breaking due to the pressure it deals with. Yes, uncertainty is uncomfortable.  But coming back to my example of an unknown road.  Do you know how amazing it feels when you finally reach ...

“I've learned one thing, and that's to quit worrying about stupid things. You have four years to be irresponsible here, relax. Work is for people with jobs. You'll never remember class time, but you'll remember the time you wasted hanging out with your friends. So stay out late. Go out with your friends on a Tuesday when you have a paper due on Wednesday. Spend money you don't have. Drink 'til sunrise. The work never ends, but college does...” ―  Tom Petty I landed up in a course that I cursorily ticked on my college application. So finding B.A. (Hons) Business Economics (BBE) was pure destiny. Keeping this serendipity in perspective, I was so sure that this course would provide me the exact path I should be on. It somewhat did, but if I were to correctly say it, I'd say my journey gave me the answer where I wanted to be, and more importantly what I wanted to be. My college offered me a plethora of opportunities that were nothing short of wonderful; which le...

I was sorry that I was different. He said he loved me, but he didn't know how. Maybe he tried his best. He demanded I fight his demons for him because he failed. I tricked myself into believing they were my demons. He left and I didn't say anything. I felt like I was kind. No one bought it. The ground beneath my feet began to shift violently. Doubt began to seep. I stopped believing I was smart. The days became long. I took every relationship that had shown me unconditional love and smashed it into pieces. There was a relief though, there was nothing left to screw up. I was finally alone. I let myself cry. I stopped struggling. Everything turned very still. I thought I'd die, but my heart kept beating. It didn't care about what I thought. My heart stopped apologizing. It became quiet. I was still breathing. If I fell, I knew that I could get up. It was hard at first. I stopped fretting and started exploring. I practiced falling. I was always stuck at a question; You ca...

There are infinite ways I can miss you, maybe the list is short but my reason is huge. Or maybe I've got a trillion lists of tiny reasons but both are the same dull ache. Perhaps I do have both. My little list no longer makes sense, just like it simply no longer exists. My longer list is not meaningless, it's all about him. I miss those things that he used to say. I miss the songs that he would play in his car. I miss the way he was excited about meeting me even after we met just a few days back. I miss how he loved me every time he looked at me. I miss his geekiness about movies and shows. He was a lost cause, but I miss him. I loved the way he chased passion. I miss the way he loved adventure and made our days a ride of a roller coaster.  Mostly, though, I miss things that haven't happened yet. You can't actually miss them because you never knew your life with them in it, but you can't help but think about how great it would have been. I miss things like this on b...

A letter from a stranger. It is believed that if today we face some problem in life, then tomorrow it will be solved, like day and night, life hits us too. If we face the dark side now, then surely tomorrow there will be light. Many of us believe in this motto and many may not. I once learnt about a traveller, who was stuck in a desert. His car had broken down and cell reception was lost. However, without losing his hope, he survived the hard conditions of the desert and saw his loved ones again. I wondered, was it hope which kept him alive? Was it the inspiration of the loved ones? Was it the wish to live again? I was lost in my thoughts when my eyes fell upon a desk, a lifeless desk. It can't move, it can't feel the scratches made by anyone, it simply bears weight without an ache, it doesn't feel PAIN!  Maybe we are wrong after all long? Pain can only be felt by the living. Contradicting, we may believe that in pain we feel lifeless, but ...

Humaari Adhuri Kahaani I have not seen the movie, I have just read the book. It is an easy read, and is a very typical Bollywood love story but with some sensitive issues involved. If you want to read the book, do not read it for the storyline. Read it for the dialogues. I really loved the dialogues in this book. Describing love is perhaps one of the most difficult things, but throughout the book, you will come across different definitions of love that would just make you sit and ponder on it for quite a while. Here are my favourite quotes from the book:  " If she were that simple, would she be worth seeking?" "Why did it seem so difficult to talk about love? Because the world offered, again and again, instances of love, not just love that was mentioned or spoken of but love in action. Only a cynic could doubt the power of Love or it's reality, and only a fool could be a cynic" " Joy and woe are woven fine, a clothing for the soul d...

I don't have dreams, I have goals.  - Harvey Specter  GOALS? Why are goals so important? Why does everyone keep talking about goals? Well, Goals help me proudly say- "I know where I am going" Are you the kind of person who likes to drift along and see what happens? OR Do you have a goal which is something you would like to happen in your life and are working towards it? Setting goals is the most significant step and is quite difficult sometimes. But, believing you can accomplish the goal you have set may actually be the hardest part. So I do this thing called "living the result" or "internalising the goal" before you have achieved it. And I do think it plays an important role in motivating you constantly to work towards your goal. Your imagination is what makes the journey towards the goal so beautiful. The Goal should be clear in your mind, not a half hearted wish. You must have belief in yourself and your ability to achiev...

Don't be affected too much by all the small things in life for all the small things will come and go and you'll lose focus from the big things But don't be affected too much by the big things in life for life is lived in the small things and the moments that come and go by I looked at her with happiness and not just a smile "You're my small thing I said and laughed" Forgot to mention that she's also my big thing. One day when I was listening to my friend's stories, I told him all of this big stuff and small stuff and how it affects us and ruins what we call happiness. It is always easier said than done, and After A few days,  when I was upset about something, He wonderfully converted that conversation into a poem and showed it to me. He gave me exactly what I needed at the moment and I can never thank him enough for everything. Always guiding me about studies, books, and life.  This poem means a lot to me now, for two reaso...

The side effects of being me, Are even greater than the natural disaster it seems. Whatever I do, always goes wrong. When I want a chicken it turns out to be a prawn. When I shoot the basketball at practice It always goes in But when it comes to show others My experiences are as odd as huckleberry Finn's. When in the corridor I am having a talk. Mam comes up and thinks i am having a nice walk. Whenever I use a bit of slang, I get a painful slash- slap -bang. Being egoistic was once a trend But it made me break up with my best friend. My short temper makes me turn people topsy-turvy. But then it makes me ask the teacher for some mercy I am pretty good at making excuses I will make a new one if other diffuses In any subject when I share my oh-so-unpleasant views in the whole class, it becomes hot news At the end of the day when I think Everything is going to be fine And the night is going to be mine When I can think what all I did and got during the day And I ...

I was asked to write for my college yearbook on the topic -Wonderful experience in college.    and this is what I wrote. Going by the literal definition, 'Experience' is "the process of doing and seeing things and of having things happen to you." The first semester of my college was a whole lot of not getting things that I wanted. Not getting into societies that I applied for. Not fitting into the group of people who I wanted to be friends with. Not achieving the grades I wanted and that’s just a whole lot of experience right there. Soon, I made up my own definition of experience: "Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you wanted." My best memories in college are based on just one line: "Sometimes things have to fall apart to make way for better things..." (HIMYM reference) Since I didn't get into societies of my choice, I had time to explore other options available in college and ...