Conflict Resolution and me

Do you imagine coincidences happening in your mind?  Meeting an old friend in the metro,  What would you talk to them about? Well, I started doing that the moment I lost you.  Looking for you in strangers, in places where you'd usually be,  where we'd usually be. Sometimes I could even feel your presence around me,  but not you. Just strange faces around me. When our beloved ones die,  It's a tragedy but it wasn't their choice to leave you. When you left me it was worse than a tragedy,  because it was your choice.  You opt to leave me. It wasn't an incident, it was a choice. One of the most painful things I had to go through,  was to grieve the loss of a person who is still alive. It changed me over time.  More than the pain, my familiarity with some very special people changed me.  So the situation changed.  I stopped looking for you in strangers.  Even if we met someday I wouldn't even probably recognize you.  You w...

 The other day, I was thinking about anger and laughter. Happiness, compassion, and laughter can bring a ray of sunshine into otherwise gloomy lives, but anger leads to rash, harmful words, and actions. However, there is a different kind of anger that is fueled by injustice and the need to right a wrong. That kind of anger is far more powerful than cynical, mocking, and heartless laughing.  And this reminded of something I had read sometime back -  " Anger in its time and place May assume a kind of grace "

 I have realized that I have always been an “I want to do it all,” kinda person. But there are moments when I don't want to hustle; instead, I want to lie the fuck down. Take it from someone who has consumed chamomile tea, tried meditation, and booked me-time in the calendar in an attempt of being her 'best self'. Balance isn't found at the bottom of a pricey tea or as the conclusion of a yoga lesson. Instead, it's a state of mind. And something that has really been working for me is - ' A Fuck-It list' We spend a lot of time checking things off our to-do lists, creating aspirational Pinterest boards, and pondering our next big goal, dream, or plan. Then we wonder why we've burned out. Answer honestly- How much time and effort do you put into stuff that doesn't really matter? Or activities that you think you "should" do rather than those that you really want to do? STEPS TO MAKE A FUCK-IT LIST -   Make a mental or physical list of all the t...

 Do you know these words?  "Lost, somewhere between sunrise and sunset, sixty golden minutes, each set with sixty diamond seconds. No reward is offered, for they are gone forever." This is so true, as the proverb says, " Footprints on the sands of time are not made by sitting down." I have been wondering about these golden minutes and diamond seconds a lot recently. These are all we need to have, to stand and stare in life. Some quiet times of relaxation and refreshment... Don't we all need them, so that things don't get on top of us in this busy world?

We were friends before the story actually starts. We met in college. I told him stories of my awful ex-boyfriend, and he indulged in my fantasies of murder. We would sit in his car, talking about how easy it would be to sneak poisonous leaves into their burgers. He told me about his school life; the obsession with movies and shows. And all this seemed impressive to the girl with no friends. Our friendship took years to turn romantic, but it did. He was fun and wild, and he really seemed to get me. He made me feel special, like a femme fatale, like I was in a movie. We had a lovely start - all intense connection and creative collaboration. For the first time, I felt heard and seen. He made me feel safe and special. An intoxicating combination.  It was different right away. I didn't want to date him, I wanted to be his partner. I wanted to skip all the awkward dating (we did) and arrive at the comfortable, compatible thing, always things. I had found my guy. Part of th...

Designing your life starts with designing your days  - A New Year special post >> Start with One Small Thing One of the many reasons I write this blog is that it gives me a sense of control, progress, and accomplishment. It’s a part of my life that’s deliberate and it also gives me a few focused hours a month of uninterrupted creation time. Or Start with any environment that makes up your life - Clean your room Organize your office Take care of your plants Update your social media profile to reflect who you want to become, not who you were in your past Take a picture every day One of the best ways to start a new chapter of your life is to start with one tiny, seemingly inconsequential aspect. The capacity to make a promise and sustain it becomes a self-fulfillment prophecy that causes a ripple effect in other areas of your life. >> Designing Your Schedule Between preparing for my di's wedding, doing assignments every week, and overseeing other projects last year my sche...

1. Maintain a healthy lifestyle Health issues, even minor ones, can interfere with other aspects of your life or even overshadow them. Your wellbeing and stress levels are influenced even by relatively mild health conditions such as aches, pains, lethargy, and indigestion. Making a commitment to healthy behavior is one way to boost your ability to deal with stress and feel better. 2. Spend money on experiences, not things Things have a shelf life. Experiences live forever in your memory. This is one of the things you're not going to find out until you've spent a lot of money on stuff. Go on trips, meals with friends, and the kinds of stuff that leave you with plenty of memories that can contribute to a meaningful life, but no excess baggage. 3. Never give up on something you can’t go a day without thinking about. If you are passionate about something, you’ll be thinking about it every day, maybe every minute. So, stick with it if you're lucky enough to have discovered your ...