I have realized that I have always been an “I want to do it all,” kinda person. But there are moments when I don't want to hustle; instead, I want to lie the fuck down.
Take it from someone who has consumed chamomile tea, tried meditation, and booked me-time in the calendar in an attempt of being her 'best self'. Balance isn't found at the bottom of a pricey tea or as the conclusion of a yoga lesson. Instead, it's a state of mind. And something that has really been working for me is - 'A Fuck-It list'
We spend a lot of time checking things off our to-do lists, creating aspirational Pinterest boards, and pondering our next big goal, dream, or plan. Then we wonder why we've burned out.
Answer honestly- How much time and effort do you put into stuff that doesn't really matter? Or activities that you think you "should" do rather than those that you really want to do?
STEPS TO MAKE A FUCK-IT LIST -
- Make a mental or physical list of all the things that aren't worthy of your time, resources, or attention. Consider it as a kind of anti-bucket list. My list is known as the F-It List.
- Add the 'People' sub-category to the list. Friendships that aren't up to par or are toxic. We must all safeguard our time and energy. For me, this means no more “obligation” lunches at overpriced restaurants or no more friendships where people don't value my efforts for them aka toxic. (Wasn't intended to anyone, but as they say, if the shoe fits wear it Cinderella)
- Add the 'Activities' sub-category to the list. This could be any activity that drains you mentally. But this section needs a solution too in the format 'Activity - Solution(s)'. For example, Overthinking - Gratitude journaling/Video calling a friend.
- Add more sections and categories according to your personal preferences.
- Keep it updated. And no, I'm not joking, it's helpful. And you'll be shocked by how much more energy you have when you stop pushing yourself through life.
None of these things in the list matter. They're just insignificant. I free myself up to be as energetic and alive as possible by noticing them, saying "fuck it," and waving them off. You know what? I'm just pretty good at a lot of other stuff. You're the same way. Avoid mentally cursing yourself for things that don't matter if you want to live a productive life.
Some days you thrive, and others you survive. On some days, you want to hustle, and on others, you just want to lie the fuck down.
It’s impossible to be everything for everyone. You'll find you have a lot more to offer if you handle yourself with a little more acceptance and understanding.
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